Sunday, February 13, 2011

Romance Then, Romance Now

By Emly Forrest

Anyone ever seen those amusing little coffee table books for mature ladies called Porn for Women of a Certain Age? They’re filled with ideas about what us older chicks find erotic in a man. Like when they vacuum. Or when they reassure us that a little muffin top is sexy in a woman. I began to think about that and how my perception of romance has changed over the years. Following is my comparison of the things I used to find romantic and the things I now find romantic.

Romance Then

A huge bouquet of roses

A box of candy


Candlelight dinner

Taking sexy photos of one another

Leaving love notes

Marathon love-making

Puppy as a gift

Weekend get-away for two

Saying “I love you”

Romance Now

Weeding and fertilizing the rose bushes

Bringing boxes home to help pack for moving

Watching the grandkids on the baseball diamond

Beer and popcorn during a favorite old movie

Poring over old photo albums together

Leaving a thank-you note for taking out the garbage

Marathon naps together

Walking the dog when it’s raining

Weekend stay-at-home and relax

Saying “I love you” (some things don’t change)

Emly Forrest is the author of The Last Resort (2010) and Irish Ice (Coming in March 2011), both available at Please visit her website at or contact her at


Jason said...

Is it weird that I find ALL of those things romantic?


Faith said...

LOL, well I have to say after three failed and nightmare marriage, I finally have a man who is extra special. I thank God for him every day. He makes a point of telling me he loves me every day too.

Emly Forrest said...

Nah, Jason. You sound like a very romantic guy, who has his priorities firmly in place. Good for you!

Emly Forrest said...

Faith--how very, very lucky you are!

doxymom said...

Shoot, I find "doing the dishes for me" romantic. LOL. Because it's considerate.

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Emly Forrest said...

Oh, yeah. Considerate goes a looooong way.