Sunday, March 2, 2014

The 5 W's of BDSM Starting with What

I'm going to give you the 411 on the 5 W's of BDSM. What, when, where, why and wonderful!

What is BDSM? - Some say it's a sexual orientation. As in, gay / straight / transgender / submissive. It's unlike power neutral relationships since there is normally a power exchange involved between the people (sometimes more than two) in the relationship. This dynamic is gender neutral though. You'll find men and women on both sides of the power exchange which I think is super cool because it greatly broadens the possibilities of finding yourself.

Let me break down the word for you.

B/D - Bondage and Discipline (physical and/or mental restraint)

D/S - Dominance and Submission (power exchange)

S/M - Sadism and Masochism (people who like to give pain and the people who like to take it)

Some people in this lifestyle just like the bondage part. They like to be tied up, or down, or sideways depending on the day/time or circumstance, but they don't want to give up their power to someone else.
For some it is only while in a scene (public or private) and the rest of their life they are as vanilla as they come.

A lot of people in this lifestyle have some aspect of power exchange going all the time. Even if they are unpartnered certain aspects revolve inside their head all the time. Wanting to be submissive to someone all day every day.
Others want to top or dominate others all the time. It's just a part of them. An integral piece they just can't shut off.
A LOT of people are like this but they have to wear a vanilla suit all the time so they can function in the world.

My suggestion? Accept it. Don't fight who you are. It will just make you miserable along with everyone else around you.

BDSM can be harsh and painful and dark, but it can also be beautiful and cathartic and the light in an otherwise pitch black world.




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Jennifer Kacey is a wife, mother, and business owner living with her family in Texas. She sings in the shower, plays piano in her dreams, and has to have a different color of nail polish every week. The best advice she’s ever been given? Find the real you and never settle for anything less.

1 comment:

E.L. F. said...

Great posts (I won't comment on each but have worked my way backwards through them, lol), thank you, Jennifer and good luck on the latest release!