It
seems to me that our three basic needs, for food and security and love, are so
mixed and mingled and entwined that we cannot straightly think of one without
the others. So it happens that when I write of hunger, I am really writing
about love and the hunger for it, and warmth and the love of it and the hunger
for it...and then the warmth and richness and fine reality of hunger
satisfied...and it is all one.”—MFK Fisher
As
a food writer (in my “other” life), I have had ample opportunity to reflect
about the meaning of food in our lives. The simple act of preparing food is a
pure form of love. Eating and sharing food goes beyond the simple needs of
stomachs. Food writers, chefs, and home cooks know this. Yes, the attraction of
certain food can often be as surface-oriented as the presentation of it. But
what we as food people are interested in, really, are the emotions that the
flavor of food reaches in and pulls out to keep the eater coming back for more.
The
connection between food and sex would seem to be clear—primal, basic,
instinctual. The modern appetite—ever bombarded with images of both sex and
food—appears to be unyielding and stretching beyond anything that ancient
people could have imagined. Yet, food and sex were both there—biological
concerns, mainly. One wonders how it got to be so intermingled with pleasure
and comfort and in such delightful manners.
I agree with MFK Fisher
that when I write about food I am really writing about love and the hunger for
it. As I plunge into more and more erotic romance writing, I can see the same
themes, for love and longing, for hungers and appetites fulfilled or
unfulfilled, with different means and methods, of course.
Some
believe that the best food, like the best sex, comes with love. Others are more
complicated in their appetites. They want the best, most expensive truffle, or
the exact kind of Stilton coming from a certain region in England, from a
specific farm, or the precise chocolate that is grown on a plantation in
Venezuela. They get off on finding the perfect food experience.
It’s
the same with sex—some want one partner for life—others want to try a little of
everything, a little spanking here and there, two or more partners at the same
time, a little bondage, or, perhaps, food play. When food and sex come
together, then, we are playing with deep primal yearnings and a delightful
melting of appetites. Some of us are better at squashing our appetites
than others. Therein lies the story.
In
SAFFRON NIGHTS, my first erotic romance published by e-kensington, Maeve has enjoyed sexual freedom with several men, telling
herself love is a waste of precious time. She has some kinky predilections,
considers herself a woman of many appetites. She doesn’t deny herself a lover,
but she does deny herself love.
Until,
of course, this wild journey she takes with Jackson. He’s a man who flits from
woman to woman until he finds it no longer satisfying. He doesn’t know what he
hungers for—is it love? Is he ready to be vulnerable enough to love again?
SAFFRON
NIGHTS explores many appetites when it comes to food, sex, and love. Check out my blog for snippets about some of the aphrodisiacs I've been researching. Have you ever thought about the
connections between food, romance, sex, and love?
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3 comments:
I definitely think there's a connection between food, romance, and love...but maybe not sex! Maeve sounds like a very modern, independent woman.
catherinelee100 at gmail dot com
I agree that there is a connection. You can even use food with the other stuff.
debby236 at gmail dot com
Thanks so much for commenting, Catherine and Debby. It's all so interesting to ponder...
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